New Year....

(taken on my birthday - 31st of December of 2008)

For everyone that reads my blog (and visits it by circumstance) I hope you all had a Peaceful Christmas and a Great New Years eve.

Best Wishes to the Year of 2009!

7 Signs of a Troubled Relationship

When couples wait too long to ask for help, the relationship may be beyond repair. The sooner help is sought, the better chance there is of recovering, saving and actually strengthening the relationship. This includes issues dealing with affairs or other types of betrayal.

The longer we wait, the more entrenched we get in destructive patterns and resentment and all hope for change is lost. At a certain point we don't even want change... we just want to be done.

The seven warning signs that a relationship is in trouble are:

1. Fighting has become the rule rather than the exception to the rule.

2. You find yourself looking outside the relationship for comfort, care, and understanding.

3. You can't remember what attracted you to your partner in the first place.

4. There is little or no intimacy in your relationship -- sleeping in different rooms or different beds, lack of interest, anger, and hostility so that intimacy is out of the question.

5. Spending very little time together, friends seem to be more important than your partner.

6. Reactions to situations are disproportionate to the content of the disagreement (i.e., feeling your partner doesn't love you because she/he didn't like the meal you cooked).

7. Feeling helpless and hopeless to change anything. Feeling done with the relationship, but unclear as to where to go and what to do. Feelings of anger, resentment, pain, and desperation are predominant.

If any or all of these describe you in your relationship, your relationship is in trouble and it won't be long before something more drastic happens, such as an affair, arguments get worse and inflate with intensity, increased jealousy, silence for longer periods of time, and sometimes even physical and/or verbal abuse.

Before your relationship reaches that critical crisis point, look at the warning signs and do something before it's too late:

1. Seek psychotherapy
2. Read books
3. Talk to a spiritual/religious adviser
   

Without help, the relationship will never get better with time; once a certain level of resentment, anger, and hostility hits, it will simply get worse and worse. Avoiding a total crisis and saving the relationship is done by knowing when you're in trouble and taking immediate action.

Gods Tears =/

Rain bears reminding of God's bitter tears
Lost are his blessings in cold, hardened fears.
He cries for lack of empathy
He cries in souls divided
He cries when people's endless hate
Forever gets ignited.
He cries for the lies that are hidden...
When preachers say: "Come to church you'll be forgiven".
In truth we know it's all about control of the mass,
It's like the control those don't have that like smoking "grass".*
It's politics, it's religion... it's rules that cause so much fear.
It's blindness. It's a truth people cannot bear.
Every felt raindrop brings stain to creation
Removed from the people he once felt relation.
Can't find morality in religion's betrayal,
Turns with disgust from extremist's portrayal.
He weeps when faced with persecution
He weeps for rights refrained
He weeps in words that seek to hurt
In bigotry sustained.
Rain clouds gain pattern from God's lonely perch
Intolerant speech marks an unholy church
He cries in lost inclusive virtue
He cries the narrow mind
He cries in doctrine twisted 'round
That only serves to blind
Rain hopes for cleansing what preaching's disgraced..
Compassionate values might be more embraced.


* Even tho I don't do drugs, have never done it. We all know the reason why marijuana hasn't been legalized it is because it can't be controlled. Has nothing to do with being "right" or "wrong". (Even tho I find it stupid why people do it at all...)

Tears

I cry tears
Not sad ones today
Awash, my tears swim
Gliding along contours of a face
With an ear to ear grin...

I cry tears
Drops of joy loving you
Cleansing streams down my cheek.
Full of hope as I know you feel the same way too.

I cry tears
Whether real or imagined, half tears or a whole;
Of a love started yet to be experienced...
Explored by two bodies sharing one soul.

I cry tears
Not sour tears or tears of despair.
Today I cry tears that are warm like your body...
And sweet like your lips. It's only fair!

I cry tears that talk a new dialect...
Tears that have no need to speak.
Tears that shine when our eyes meet,
Tears that show how you are perfect.

I cry tears that have no need to be heard.
Tears with no wants...
Tears without haunts...
Tears of one that loves.

Happiness & Joy

I am lost in this life
And I'm not sure what brings me this strife.
Where did I go?
How to find me? I might not know...
But I'm sure I was once here.
Somewhere near,
Yet so far away?
My life seems to stay, how come?
And it keeps me searching still
For the will to go on
When I doubt the woman I've become.
And I'm not one with myself
And the pain inside my soul
Keeps me from being whole
So I look deep within me
And hatred is all I see.
All that's there is a pain inside my heart
To the point I now start to doubt:
Why am I here?

What is this existence about?
So I cry in the night
For this life's nowhere in sight...
Within I grasp...
And as I gasp...
for a breath of refreshing air
Or a break in my despair.
So I resign myself to this
There is no joy or happiness.

So wrong but so right...

My view in Iraq is pretty simple actually...
At first there were lies:
"Uh, weapons of mass destruction..." (That everyone knew it was a lie from the start! That's why the rest of the world wanted proof of those);

So... We put THAT much money into Iraq to "look" for something that is not even there!?

And then... LOTS of soldiers... HUNDREDS, THOUSANDS! (money spent in weapons, clothing, food, etc... money that could of been saved for this ECONOMIC CRISIS, that would probably not even exist if it wasn't for the mistake of going there in the first place!)

Some kill innocents, some get killed... In the end? You ask a soldier why he's there... They don't even know! "Well... it's orders!" (Oh, sorry... So let me just go kill people without even knowing why?);

Oh sorry... it's because of the terrorists...
Yes, didn't you people know? All Muslim people are just a bunch of terrorists!
Their beliefs are SO STUPID! Because it's not what I believe in.

Isn't a brain washed Christian just as bad as a brain washed Muslim? (uh, this is really bad!)

Some soldiers to sleep at night say they are there to help the oppressed people.
People that never asked for help.
People that don't even want them there. Or our ways. Or our lifestyle!

So we went into Iraq when we should of been concentrated in Afghanistan! And now we can't leave Iraq because they will kill each others. Now we created conflict within there. (like it wasn't enough before!) - Those who stood by us are called traitors. (or worse)

There are soldiers stuck in Iraq sucking each others DICKS everyday and bothering who doesn't want to be bothered, because what's there to do? Obviously not much!
(I'm so vulgar! - smiles)

I don't care what anyone says.
Going to Iraq WAS (IS) a MISTAKE!
Leaving there now IS a mistake!

War is a mistake! (And war is not necessary to evil, who ever said that is/was an idiot!)

Hopefully Obama can come up with some GENIUS plan.
And with his ability of speech... make the world follow him and prove that there can be a black Jesus! (now this is me just being goofy)!

He hasn't proved anything yet. But if the whole world was sitting watching TV that day of the election... just to make sure Obama would win to celebrate... I'll give him props for that already!

So...

HOOREY BARACK OBAMA!

10 Reasons Why You Should Get Sleep:

You may literally have to add it to your to-do list, but scheduling a good night's sleep could be one of the smartest health priorities you set. It's not just daytime drowsiness you risk when shortchanging yourself on your seven to eight hours. Possible health consequences of getting too little or poor sleep can involve the cardiovascular, endocrine, immune and nervous systems. In addition to letting life get in the way of good sleep, between 50 and 70 million Americans suffer from a chronic sleep disorder—insomnia or sleep apnea, say—that affects daily functioning and impinges on health. Consider the research:

1) Less may mean more. For people who sleep under seven hours a night, the fewer zzzz's they get, the more obese they tend to be, according to a 2006 Institute of Medicine (IOM) report. This may relate to the discovery that insufficient sleep appears to tip hunger hormones out of whack. Leptin, which suppresses appetite, is lowered; ghrelin, which stimulates appetite, gets a boost.

2) You're more apt to make bad food choices. A study published in the October 15, 2008 issue of the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine found that people with obstructive sleep apnea or other severely disordered breathing while asleep ate a diet higher in cholesterol, protein, total fat, and total saturated fat. Women were especially affected.

3) Diabetes and impaired glucose tolerance, its precursor, may become more likely. A 2005 study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine found that people getting five or fewer hours of sleep each night were 2.5 times more likely to be diabetic, while those with six hours or fewer were 1.7 times more likely.

4) The ticker is put at risk. A 2003 study found that heart attacks were 45 percent more likely in women who slept for five or fewer hours per night than in those who got more.

5) Blood pressure may increase. Obstructive sleep apnea, for example, has been associated with chronically elevated daytime blood pressure, and the more severe the disorder, the more significant the hypertension, suggests the 2006 IOM report. Obesity plays a role in both disorders, so losing weight can ease associated health risks.

6) Auto accidents rise. As stated in a 2007 report in the New England Journal of Medicine, nearly 20 percent of serious car crash injuries involve a sleepy driver—and that's independent of alcohol use.

7) Balance is off. Older folks who have trouble getting to sleep, who wake up at night, or are drowsy during the day could be 2 to 4.5 times more likely to sustain a fall, found a 2007 study in the Journal of Gerontology.

8) You may be more prone to depression. Adults who chronically operate on fumes report more mental distress, depression, and alcohol use. Adolescents suffer, too: One survey of high school students found similarly high rates of these issues. Middle schoolers, too, report more symptoms of depression and lower self-esteem.

9) Kids may suffer more behavior problems. Research from an April issue of the Archives of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine found that children who are plagued by insomnia, short duration of sleeping, or disordered breathing with obesity, for example, are more likely to have behavioral issues like attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.

10) Death's doorstep may be nearer. According to three large studies published in the journals Sleep and the Archives of General Psychiatry, people over age 30 who slept five hours or less per night had approximately a 15 percent greater risk of dying—regardless of the cause—over the periods studied, which ranged from six to 14 years.